tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848359723613437454.post3802777243492556409..comments2023-05-03T04:01:16.477-07:00Comments on Rape, Religion and Reality: That First Time Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14048231870949432203noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848359723613437454.post-44478206596956632442013-09-21T18:11:56.416-07:002013-09-21T18:11:56.416-07:00Each of you survivors is dear to me. None of us de...Each of you survivors is dear to me. None of us deserved this. I am so sorry for all you have been through. You responses to my sharing have encouraged me in my healing and journey. I ache for each of you. I am amazed by your stories and strength and am so proud to be part of a circle of people who understand and support each other in our horrors.<br />Thank you, to each of you for your response, courage, love and bravery. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14048231870949432203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848359723613437454.post-22457394968835620692013-09-21T16:44:29.078-07:002013-09-21T16:44:29.078-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17803261285737953325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848359723613437454.post-78015615243269393802013-09-21T16:43:35.286-07:002013-09-21T16:43:35.286-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17803261285737953325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848359723613437454.post-9290085984925505652013-09-21T00:50:06.886-07:002013-09-21T00:50:06.886-07:00With many of my memories I have a body knowing wit...With many of my memories I have a body knowing without explicit memories. Sometimes I am grateful for that, sometimes it makes it all seem surreal and I wish I could just remember more so that I could understand better. But then there are other times I wish I had no memories of his fingers inside me - and what is it with kids and objects (my main abuser was my brother also). I will never understand what made him do that to me. Thank you for sharing, it makes me sad to think of you so little and having that happen to you. Makes me feel more fortunate because I was a few years older at leastAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10312053886604782006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848359723613437454.post-12957347686384867852013-09-20T19:01:48.739-07:002013-09-20T19:01:48.739-07:00I remember very clearly at the age of 11 being rap...I remember very clearly at the age of 11 being raped by an uncle and then several weeks later by my father. I don't remember being raped or molested before the age of 3 when I do remember calling myself an adulteress in church while listening to a sermon on Sunday night. Why do I remember one and not the other. An 11 year old has survival tools that a 3 year old or younger child doesn't. I work with the memories that I do have. If I ever get the other memories back, I will work will then too. Until then I do have a life that I enjoy.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2848359723613437454.post-29759975920541180342013-09-20T18:54:51.694-07:002013-09-20T18:54:51.694-07:00It's amazing how clearly you remember. I don&#...It's amazing how clearly you remember. I don't think I remember anything before about the age of 5/6. But then, I wasn't subjected to sexual trauma at that age. Oh yes, I certainly remember the first time as I was 11/12 and it was my father who took weeks, maybe months to "get into me" as I fought him so much. But it still hurt like hell when he finally got there. I can't imagine how painful it was for a little 4-year-old. So disgusting. I outline the complete details of my father's methodology in my book, <a href="http://www.notearsformyfather.com" rel="nofollow">NO TEARS FOR MY FATHER</a> and readers have found the whole process horrid. I read yours and it seems that much more horrid to me as you were so young. <br /><br />Viga BolandVigabohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07759933133939472793noreply@blogger.com